Children provide us with endless opportunities to stand at the Crossroads and decide how we are going to move forward. Whether we know it or not, remember it or not, when we stand there, we have a choice. We either choose connection or we choose disconnection.

Did you notice that magical word?

We choose.

You might say, “No way, I love my kid! I would never choose disconnection!”

Well, let’s explore that.

Imagine you have been working tirelessly for days on a huge presentation for work. All the senior staff will be there, listening to your ideas on solving this messy problem and you really want to knock it out of the park. This is your shot for some recognition and a possible promotion!

The day arrives for you to give your presentation. You are in your home office finalizing your slides, and the stack of
professionally-printed handouts for your meeting are sitting in the middle of your desk. Your child, who has been missing you and wanting to engage with you, comes into your office. He accidentally bumps into the corner of your desk, knocking over your coffee cup, ruining your stack of professionally-printed handouts.

Your temper flares as you bark at him, “What have you done? My handouts are destroyed! Get out NOW!”

You might think, ‘that reaction was a bit harsh, but I didn’t choose to explode. It was automatic.’

Let’s replace a few teeny, tiny words.

The day arrives for you to give your presentation. You are in your office finalizing your slides, and the stack of professionally-printed handouts for your meeting are sitting in the middle of your desk. Your boss, who has been worried about the meeting and wants to check on you, comes into your office. He accidentally bumps into the corner of your desk, knocking over your coffee cup, ruining your stack of professionally-printed handouts.

In the second scenario, you likely would have said it was all right, jumped up to clean the spill, and kept your temper under wraps. Even in the heat of the moment, you can choose your response.

Choosing differently isn’t a gift granted to parents who’ve had a decade or more of practice. Even as brand-new parents, we’ve had experience being an adult. We can learn how to bring more love into our interactions using the 5 Seasons philosophy no matter how long we have been parents.

Our children rely on us to bring light into our interactions, guide them with grace, and welcome them into Summer—especially when they’re fighting, defying, sassing, and pushing every button we have.

When you know more about the individual seasons, and how you can choose to navigate them and reach your highest parenting dreams and expectations, your world will change!

Let me know how you have seen the 5 Seasons work in your family!

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